A few tips for getting out of a toxic relationship 

Not all relationships are smooth sailing. It's even normal for a couple to experience ups and downs. But when there's an obvious lack of trust, when you don't support each other, when communication breaks down, when you feel insecure and your self-esteem is damaged, chances are you're in a toxic relationship. The important thing then is to get out of this state of suffering that seems to have no end. Wondering how to get out of a toxic relationship? Here's some advice.

Surround yourself with people and ask for advice

One of the problems of a toxic relationship is that we're not always aware of it. As a result, we're surprised that the relationship isn't working well, and we maintain it despite the emotional burden it inflicts.

If you notice any of the signs mentioned above, don't hesitate to talk about it. Talk to family members or friends. They'll surely be in a better position to make you understand that you're in a situation of control, and that the relationship isn't doing you any good after all. It's essential to accept support, even from a therapist if you feel you need it.

Cut off contact and stick to your decision

Once you've realized that you're in a toxic relationship with a partner, the best way out is to cut off contact. If you're living together, you'll need to find a new place to live. In the meantime, you can take refuge with family or friends while you find a new place of your own.

The partner will then inevitably try to get in touch with you in an attempt to get you back. Especially if you're dealing with a narcissistic pervert, who will tend to make you feel guilty about your choice, alternating between compliments and insults. Above all, don't give in to the urge to try again, telling yourself that after all, the feelings are there and it's better than being alone. At all costs, keep your commitment and cut off the dialogue. This is all the more necessary as you've already had many opportunities to say everything you think about the other person and the relationship.

One important thing to know is that a toxic relationship cannot be transformed into a healthy one. Despite the good will of one or both parties, the dysfunctions will tend to reappear.

Focus on your new goals

When the decision is made to leave a toxic relationship, it's time to turn over a new leaf and focus on new goals. There's a strong tendency to dwell on the past and analyze the relationship's failures.

This is when it's important to focus on the future. This could mean setting professional goals, taking up a sporting or cultural activity you've been thinking about for a long time, or moving to a new town or region to be closer to people you care about and want to spend more time with.

Don't jump into a new relationship too soon

There's a tendency to think that meeting someone new is the best way to end a toxic relationship and move on. This is not true, firstly because it's rare to fall in love at the snap of a finger. Secondly, because you need to take the time to find yourself and understand what went wrong when you had real feelings.

Once you've given yourself the time you need to think things over, things are clearer in your mind and you've totally written off and broken contact with your ex-partner - in other words, you've made a fresh start - then you can consider meeting someone again. This time for a healthy relationship.