Virtual meeting: how does it work?
Meeting someone on a dating site
Today, there are 26% women and 42% of single men in France. And this number continues to increase and has certainly not been reduced in the last few months as a result of the pandemic we are going through and the repeated lockdowns. If some people are alone by choice, a large number of singles claim to be in search of love at first sight, the relationship that will change their daily lives and allow them to start building a life together. For this reason, there are more and more users of dating sites and apps. But then, can we actually find love on virtual dating apps? How do you make sure you're not wasting your time and especially not being disappointed because of a virtual meeting? Unfortunately, there is no magic recipe, and facing disappointments when looking for love is almost inevitable. However, you can try to put your chances on your side by agreeing to take the time to get to know your interlocutors. Indeed, if the virtual meeting may seem easier, especially for more timid people, it is not necessarily so for everyone: some people need time to indulge, are not very good at putting themselves forward or are reluctant to reveal themselves to another person via a phone or a computer. So taking the time to discuss and get to know each other without rushing things is essential. The choice of the dating site on which you want to make a virtual meeting is also very important: some sites are based only on physical criteria, for example, which leaves little room for emotional crush and the creation of affinities, which are nevertheless essential to building a stable and lasting couple. Thus, we advise you to use a virtual dating site like Yousoon, which directs you directly to people with whom you have common interests, passions and hobbies. Not only does this help avoid disappointment, but it also gives you ideas for conversation topics through which you can get away from the basic “Hi, how's it going? which rarely leads anywhere.
Embrace “slow dating”
Romantic encounters cause us a lot of excitement and impatience. Too often, we tend to rush without taking the time to get to know the person we have right in front of us, whether through a virtual meeting or face-to-face. If this excitement related to the first emotions is quite understandable, it can quickly be akin to self-sabotage: knowing little about a person with whom you plan to commit in the long term can be the cause of many disappointments. For this reason, “slow dating” has more and more followers, in France and abroad. Coming straight from the United States, this concept is based on taking your time when making a virtual meeting, contrary to what can offer dating sites based on chain meetings and on an ocean of profiles that scroll continuously without taking the time to linger. The goal: to learn to really discover people with whom you seem to have an affinity, whether you met them in a professional, friendly setting, or on a dating app. This method is perfect and very healthy. It allows everyone to reveal themselves little by little, as they go on appointments, thus creating a relationship of trust and friendship before considering moving on to something more serious. How does “slow dating” actually work? It's very simple: after meeting a person you like and who seems to meet your expectations, all you have to do is take the time and be careful not to rush anything. If it's a virtual meeting on a site or app, you can choose to chat online or meet quickly if you prefer that type of setup. However, there is no question here of considering the first meeting as the beginning of the relationship. Devoid of any pressure, this meeting must remain a phase of discovery and seduction during which you and your partner will learn to tame each other gently.
How to go from virtual to real?
This is the problem that many users of dating sites encounter: going from virtual dating to real dating is impressive. We are afraid of disappointing the other, of not meeting their expectations, of not knowing what to say to each other: an obstacle which, unfortunately, is responsible for the end of many relationships which could have nevertheless resulted in something concrete. and stable. Here are some tips that should allow you to take the plunge with more serenity:
- Don't rush things: if you don't feel ready yet, explain to your interviewer that you need a little more time. A negative reaction is possible, but also very revealing of the personality of this person.
- Choose a public place, possibly a place you already know and in which you feel comfortable: this will allow you to take the pressure off a little during your first date.
- If this meeting worries you a lot, you can organize a meal with a few friends, with the agreement of the person with whom you are chatting, of course. A great way to feel more relaxed.
- Try not to put too much pressure on your shoulders: this first meeting does not commit you to anything, it can lead to something more serious, lead to a beautiful friendship or remain a pleasant memory, there is no no obligations. This is also the principle of "slow dating".