This is the hard law of seduction between two people, but sometimes exchanges can become less frequent or even stop. This can happen after a first meeting in a café or during an exchange on a dating app for example. Are you determined to find out why and how and to start a new conversation with your crush? Here are some tips.
Analyse what caused the exchange to falter
Is the exchange with your crush becoming less frequent, or is it running out of steam? Then you will probably tend to send several text messages in the hope of getting a response. And that's not necessarily the right thing to do. Rather than rushing into things, take the time to sit down for a few moments to understand what has happened.
After a first meeting, you may have lost some interest in the person. Try to think back to your exchange and the signs the person may have shown. On the networks, the person may not have the time to send regular messages, or you may have done something that caused them to distance themselves. Again, take the time to go back and re-read the exchanges. You may find some answers.
Whatever the case, and whatever the situation, don't bombard them with messages at the risk of appearing insistent. This is the time to rack your brains a little to get the conversation going again and perhaps arouse the interest of the person you are trying to seduce.
How do you re-start a conversation by sms or message on the networks?
It's never easy to deal with silence when you feel an attraction for someone. Fortunately, our smartphones offer us the opportunity to easily reconnect with the person and perhaps rekindle the conversation. The important thing is to find the right topics of conversation.
At first, don't hesitate to let a few days pass before sending your message to reopen the discussion. This will show that you are not on the lookout and that you too are busy.
After 5 or 6 days, you can then send your text message, asking an open-ended question such as "How are you doing today", "Did you have a good day at work? A question needs to be answered, and you should normally receive a message in return.
The question can also be about something you have been talking about, such as "Did you get to see the film we talked about?", "How did your job interview go? In addition to requiring a response, these questions show that you are interested in the person concerned. It is also an excellent way of avoiding banalities, which can quickly become too much.
After that, it should be clear: either you don't get a response, and that means that your crush is unfortunately not interested; or she responds without elaborating, and that may mean that she is polite, but does not particularly want to pursue it; or she is honest, and tells you clearly that she is not interested.
We're talking about the more pessimistic versions here, because of course your crush may have gone radio silent because he or she was very busy or had an urgent situation. In this case, your message may very well get the ball rolling again and lead to a resumption of communication.